This is the last video of the Summer 2012 and it was quit an emotional video for me to do because I will be 47 years old in a couple months and I have never ever had such a great summer as 2012 was. I saw some truly amazing things and This one is really hard to let go. I miss it already and so I put a lot into this video and hope someone sees what I see and hear when I watch this. Chokes me up every time because I know I am saying goodbye to the best summer I've ever had and that's saying a lot. I always try to be positive but as you get older sometimes we cannot always be that way because we know there are less years in front than behind us. It was an awesome summer and the entire year has been awesome so far and still promises to be until the end of it. But as for me this past summer was a crown jewel for me and I will never forget the awesome things I saw while it was here. Thank you all for such a wonder summer because you all are part of that beauty I saw and you are amazing to me
Summer 2012, The End !
Rabu, 26 September 2012
Selasa, 25 September 2012
Online Dating - "Is it worth the time ?"
Life is a cycle that begins with love. God loved you and so he created
you. Your father and mother loved each other, and so they started
dating. They went out of their way just to meet each other or rather
create time for each other so that they could simply create you.
When you were born, you began to feel. Hunger became part of you. You started feeling pain when you were spanked on the ass by the doctor. You started shedding tears when you miss your mum. Sometimes even the nanny did not quite understand you because you only mode of deep expression was to cry. The single time you would be understood by anyone was if you would smile. You see a smile from a baby speaks a thousand or even more words. Most of the times it means that you are happy and relaxed. It means that all is well within you. All of a sudden, it may turn upside down, and tears start streaming down your face. You thought that since the people around you understood your smile then definitely they will understand your frown. Quite often this is not the case. They even begin to get angry at you, but you are simply telling them that you have pooped yourself. You start to wonder in that simple baby brain of yours “Is pooping wrong? Can’t can't I just help myself without all the fuss?” You are stuck in reverse.
Sooner than you know it, you begin to grow. Your needs start to change. You no longer require a napkin to protect you from going to the toilet on yourself. You simply just walk to the toilet and flash it after you. After a few years, you start getting attracted to people in a way that you cannot understand. You start to feel that you cannot go a day without talking to them. In other terms, you begin to feel an unexplained love.
This has led to the development of online dating services. An online dating service is where you can get dating ideas if you are out of them. In other words, you can ask dating questions. You can also simply date online. There are many online dating sites where you can ask relationship questions, issues on dating women, issues on how to find a date, issues on how to meet people and even where to find love online. Online dating is a platform where women seeking men or men seeking women can be found. If you are into a different complexion, dating sites make it possible for inter racial dating. On line dating has led to an increase in interracial dating especially among LA singles. The most prominent dating service is free online dating. We can learn from mistakes of other people when dating. Dating in LA can teach you how to date online. Therefore, if you are single in LA, there are singles in LA just waiting for you.
Author : Tina Brown
When you were born, you began to feel. Hunger became part of you. You started feeling pain when you were spanked on the ass by the doctor. You started shedding tears when you miss your mum. Sometimes even the nanny did not quite understand you because you only mode of deep expression was to cry. The single time you would be understood by anyone was if you would smile. You see a smile from a baby speaks a thousand or even more words. Most of the times it means that you are happy and relaxed. It means that all is well within you. All of a sudden, it may turn upside down, and tears start streaming down your face. You thought that since the people around you understood your smile then definitely they will understand your frown. Quite often this is not the case. They even begin to get angry at you, but you are simply telling them that you have pooped yourself. You start to wonder in that simple baby brain of yours “Is pooping wrong? Can’t can't I just help myself without all the fuss?” You are stuck in reverse.
Sooner than you know it, you begin to grow. Your needs start to change. You no longer require a napkin to protect you from going to the toilet on yourself. You simply just walk to the toilet and flash it after you. After a few years, you start getting attracted to people in a way that you cannot understand. You start to feel that you cannot go a day without talking to them. In other terms, you begin to feel an unexplained love.
This has led to the development of online dating services. An online dating service is where you can get dating ideas if you are out of them. In other words, you can ask dating questions. You can also simply date online. There are many online dating sites where you can ask relationship questions, issues on dating women, issues on how to find a date, issues on how to meet people and even where to find love online. Online dating is a platform where women seeking men or men seeking women can be found. If you are into a different complexion, dating sites make it possible for inter racial dating. On line dating has led to an increase in interracial dating especially among LA singles. The most prominent dating service is free online dating. We can learn from mistakes of other people when dating. Dating in LA can teach you how to date online. Therefore, if you are single in LA, there are singles in LA just waiting for you.
Author : Tina Brown
Why Don't You Speak Up For Yourself ?
My counseling clients often complain to me about interactions they had
with a partner, friend, parents or co-worker. When I asked the question,
"Why didn't you speak up for yourself?" here are the most common
answers I receive:
"I want to keep the peace."
"I don't want to rock the boat."
"I didn't know what to say."
"It won't change anything."
"He/she won't listen."
"We will just end up fighting."
"He/she will make it my fault."
Charlie is in his early 70's, and has been married to Esther for 43 years. Charlie and Esther love each other very much, but there has always been a problem in their marriage, and Charlie finally decided to get some help with it.
The issue is that Esther often speaks to Charlie with a harsh, demeaning, parental tone - telling him what to do. All these years, Charlie's way of dealing with this has been to comply - to be the 'nice' guy and try to 'keep the peace.' But every once in a while he suddenly blows up, scaring and hurting Esther. She has asked him over and over to tell her what's upsetting him so much, but when he has, she doesn't listen and turns it back onto him. In his mind, he has been in a no-win situation. The last blow-up led Charlie to seek my help.
The problem is that Charlie had never said anything to Esther in the moment about her tone. When he did say something, after the fact, Esther would have no idea what he was talking about, so she would explain, defend, and turn it back on him.
"I don't know what to say," said Charlie.
"Charlie, how do you feel inside when Esther speaks to you with a harsh, demeaning tone?"
"I feel small, diminished, like I did when my father would criticize me. I feel like a helpless little kid. I hate it. It hurts me."
"And when you suddenly blow up, what do you say?"
"I tell her to shut up."
"Are you telling her to shut up about what she is saying?"
"Yes."
"So you don't say anything about her tone of voice or how you feel?"
"No, I don't think I have ever said anything about her tone of voice."
"Charlie, if you were to say something in the moment, not about what she is saying, but about how she is saying it, what would you say?"
"I'd say, 'Your tone of voice is harsh and diminishing and it hurts me.'"
"Great! Would you be willing to say this the next time Esther is harsh with you?"
"Yes!"
The next week, Charlie reported that he and Esther had a great week together. He had quietly responded the way we had rehearsed and he was shocked at how Esther responded. Instead of getting angry, defensive, explaining or attacking, she said, "You're right. I'm sorry. Thank you for telling me."
All this time Charlie was certain that if he spoke up for himself, things would get worse. Instead, he discovered that Esther was very open to hearing his feelings and experience when it was in the moment, and was thrilled that he finally spoke up for himself.
Telling others what they are doing wrong, or trying to get them to stop doing what they are doing will generally lead to a difficult interaction. But speaking up for yourself with the intent of taking loving care of yourself will make you feel much better, even if the other person doesn’t hear you. At least you are hearing yourself, and this is what is important. And you might be surprised at how the other responds !
Author : Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
"I want to keep the peace."
"I don't want to rock the boat."
"I didn't know what to say."
"It won't change anything."
"He/she won't listen."
"We will just end up fighting."
"He/she will make it my fault."
Charlie is in his early 70's, and has been married to Esther for 43 years. Charlie and Esther love each other very much, but there has always been a problem in their marriage, and Charlie finally decided to get some help with it.
The issue is that Esther often speaks to Charlie with a harsh, demeaning, parental tone - telling him what to do. All these years, Charlie's way of dealing with this has been to comply - to be the 'nice' guy and try to 'keep the peace.' But every once in a while he suddenly blows up, scaring and hurting Esther. She has asked him over and over to tell her what's upsetting him so much, but when he has, she doesn't listen and turns it back onto him. In his mind, he has been in a no-win situation. The last blow-up led Charlie to seek my help.
The problem is that Charlie had never said anything to Esther in the moment about her tone. When he did say something, after the fact, Esther would have no idea what he was talking about, so she would explain, defend, and turn it back on him.
"I don't know what to say," said Charlie.
"Charlie, how do you feel inside when Esther speaks to you with a harsh, demeaning tone?"
"I feel small, diminished, like I did when my father would criticize me. I feel like a helpless little kid. I hate it. It hurts me."
"And when you suddenly blow up, what do you say?"
"I tell her to shut up."
"Are you telling her to shut up about what she is saying?"
"Yes."
"So you don't say anything about her tone of voice or how you feel?"
"No, I don't think I have ever said anything about her tone of voice."
"Charlie, if you were to say something in the moment, not about what she is saying, but about how she is saying it, what would you say?"
"I'd say, 'Your tone of voice is harsh and diminishing and it hurts me.'"
"Great! Would you be willing to say this the next time Esther is harsh with you?"
"Yes!"
The next week, Charlie reported that he and Esther had a great week together. He had quietly responded the way we had rehearsed and he was shocked at how Esther responded. Instead of getting angry, defensive, explaining or attacking, she said, "You're right. I'm sorry. Thank you for telling me."
All this time Charlie was certain that if he spoke up for himself, things would get worse. Instead, he discovered that Esther was very open to hearing his feelings and experience when it was in the moment, and was thrilled that he finally spoke up for himself.
Telling others what they are doing wrong, or trying to get them to stop doing what they are doing will generally lead to a difficult interaction. But speaking up for yourself with the intent of taking loving care of yourself will make you feel much better, even if the other person doesn’t hear you. At least you are hearing yourself, and this is what is important. And you might be surprised at how the other responds !
Author : Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Ideas for Your 40th Wedding Anniversary :D
The 40th wedding anniversary is a huge milestone since you’ve been
married for a whole four decades. This accomplishment should be
celebrated with time spent together on your anniversary. This list of
ideas incorporates ruby ideas, since rubies are the traditional and
modern gift for this anniversary. Here are some interesting ways to
incorporate a ruby theme into your wedding anniversary.
The deep fiery colour of rubies represents passion, and you know that you need to spend time together to cultivate passion in your marriage. For your 40th wedding anniversary, use these ruby themed ideas to spend time together and renew your passion for one another.
Walk the Ruby Country
In the heart of the Devon countryside is a rural area known as the Ruby Country. Here, you can stay in a local bed and breakfast and explore local gift and pottery shops. Wonder on foot each day to see what natural wonders the area has to offer, and enjoy one another’s company in the midst of the great outdoors.
Pick a Family Heirloom
There are several companies that takes regular photographs and turns them into high quality oil paintings. Break out a bottle of ruby coloured wine while you sort through photographs from your forty years of marriage to choose the perfect one to be created into an oil painting. Whether you choose a photo from your wedding day or one of the entire family, this painting will become one of your most treasured family heirlooms.
Whale Watching off the Dorset coast
There are plenty of sail boats (including one called the Ruby J!) that run whale watching cruises off the coast of Dorset, allowing you to enjoy views of the Jurassic West Bay. Then stay at one of the nearby Bed and Breakfast that offer warm meals and cosy rooms near the coast, so you can wrap up your trip here for a relaxing end to your weekend away.
Adding real rubies to these ruby themed ideas is easy, too. Present your loved one with ruby jewellery or ruby coloured clothing when you’re enjoying one of these fun ruby themed activities together. It will be a 40th wedding anniversary you’ll never forget!
Author : Nicola Ray
The deep fiery colour of rubies represents passion, and you know that you need to spend time together to cultivate passion in your marriage. For your 40th wedding anniversary, use these ruby themed ideas to spend time together and renew your passion for one another.
Walk the Ruby Country
In the heart of the Devon countryside is a rural area known as the Ruby Country. Here, you can stay in a local bed and breakfast and explore local gift and pottery shops. Wonder on foot each day to see what natural wonders the area has to offer, and enjoy one another’s company in the midst of the great outdoors.
Pick a Family Heirloom
There are several companies that takes regular photographs and turns them into high quality oil paintings. Break out a bottle of ruby coloured wine while you sort through photographs from your forty years of marriage to choose the perfect one to be created into an oil painting. Whether you choose a photo from your wedding day or one of the entire family, this painting will become one of your most treasured family heirlooms.
Whale Watching off the Dorset coast
There are plenty of sail boats (including one called the Ruby J!) that run whale watching cruises off the coast of Dorset, allowing you to enjoy views of the Jurassic West Bay. Then stay at one of the nearby Bed and Breakfast that offer warm meals and cosy rooms near the coast, so you can wrap up your trip here for a relaxing end to your weekend away.
Adding real rubies to these ruby themed ideas is easy, too. Present your loved one with ruby jewellery or ruby coloured clothing when you’re enjoying one of these fun ruby themed activities together. It will be a 40th wedding anniversary you’ll never forget!
Author : Nicola Ray
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